350+ Never Have I Ever Dating Questions
Playing “Never Have I Ever” is a great way to break the ice. The following “never have I ever” statements are couple-centric. These questions may help you get to know each other and help you figure out your partner’s expectations.
Andrea has a background in Myers-Briggs and Western astrology. She mostly writes about relationships.
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Introduction to Game
Never Have I Ever is a popular drinking game. It is also called Ten Fingers. Players take turns announcing things they’ve never done. Those who have done the thing in question must put one finger down or take a shot. The player who wins either still has some drink left or has fingers still standing.
The drinking version is played by adults. Ten Fingers is played by adolescents and children.
The game is two-fold. You want to get people out of the game before you. It’s also a way to get to know others. The following list is for romantic situations. It may also give your partner an idea or two about what they can plan for the future.
Rules
Players generally form a circle. The first player starts by making a simple statement about something they’ve never done.
Some people employ another rule—if no one takes a drink or puts a finger down, then the person asking the question has to do so. This pushes people to strategize more and ask fewer random questions.
No details have to be shared. In a sense, Never Have I Ever is a yes or no questionnaire.
At any point, people can forfeit the game and stop answering questions. This game can get sour and put a strain on friendships, so be careful what you ask.
Romantic Questions
The following questions are romantic in nature. There is a range of questions for different levels of romantic interaction from simply having a crush on someone to being married. Some of the questions are meant to make you laugh others might take you back to a pleasant memory. These questions are great if you need to kill time or get to know someone better. They might work well during a candlelight dinner or a weeklong vacation.
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Never Have I Ever. . .
- Been in a relationship
- Danced with someone in the rain
- Kissed someone’s elbow
- Kissed someone’s feet
- Been on a romantic vacation in Europe
- Skipped work to make out with someone
- Worn makeup to attract someone
- Thrown out all the gifts someone gave me
- Made a playlist for someone I liked
- Made a fancy meal for someone I liked
- Kissed someone for more than a minute
- Kissed someone for more than an hour
- Planned a dance number with someone
- Worn scandalous red or black clothes
- Had a Valentine
- Had a date for a wedding
- Been married
- Eloped
- Held someone’s hand while on a roller coaster
- Cheated on someone
- Been in a relationship for two weeks
- Been in a relationship for two months
- Been in a relationship for two years
- Texted someone all night long
- Bought chocolates for someone
- Wrote a love letter
- Brought someone I liked soup when they were sick
- Asked someone at a bar for their number
- Borrowed a car to impress someone
- Crushed on a celebrity
- Dyed my hair to impress someone
- Erased all the pictures of my ex from my phone
- Bought new shoes for a date
- Saved voicemails from a crush
- Paid a professional photographer for a dating profile pic
- Given someone candy hearts
- Flirted with a mall Santa
- Called someone gorgeous to their face
- Printed off emails from someone I liked and saved them in a folder
- Dreamed about someone and then fell in love with them
- Dated someone just so I could hang out with their pets
- Kissed a frog and hoped it would turn into a prince
- Gotten into a horse-drawn carriage with a prince
- Rescued a prince out of a shipwreck
- Gotten a job just so I could impress a crush
- Pretended I was royal to impress someone
- Sang into a well and hoped Prince Charming would appear
- Fought a dragon to save a princess
- Touched a spindle people told me not to touch. . . then slept until someone kissed me
- Built a snowman with my crush
- Pretended to be a different gender to save my family, I mean impress someone
- Dated a furry
- Rehearsed a scene from Romeo and Juliet
- Given someone a daisy chain
- Sniffed a pillow that reminds me of my love
- Dated someone I met online
- Accidentally fell asleep on someone
- Wandered into the woods with my crush
- Memorized lines from a movie to impress someone
- Stayed home to watch romantic comedies
- Watched a K-drama
- Memorized the lyrics to a love ballad
- Memorized a love poem
- Licked someone’s hand
- Pinched myself to see if things were real while on a date
- Believed in soul mates
- Played 7 Minutes in Heaven
- Had a crush on a video game character
- Wrote a fanfiction romance
- Added alluring scents to my home for when a handsome guest visits
- Intentionally watched a scary movie to get someone to be close to me
- Bought a romantic vacation package
- Shared accounts with someone (bank, social media, etc.)
- Held onto someone tightly and begged them not to go
- Worn fishnet leggings
- Played a thumb war to hold someone‘s hand
- Arm wrestled someone to hold their hand
- Smelled someone’s hair intently
- Left something at someone’s house intentionally so I had an excuse to see them again
- Ordered room service with my partner
- Worn ribbons in my hair to impress someone
- Taken professional pictures with my sweetheart
- Made someone a three-course dinner
- Played footsie
- Gotten a puppy with someone
- Gotten a kitten with someone
- Used shaving cream or whipping cream seductively
- Drawn pictures of someone I like
- Asked someone to prom
- Kissed the same person twice
- Had to sneak around my significant other’s parents
- Drunk texted someone
- Gone on a date with the wrong person
- Gone speed dating
- Kissed someone with soda in my mouth
- Held a rose in my mouth
- Taken an etiquette class to impress someone
- Read books on dating
- Dreamt I was a princess in a castle
- Made a wish on a star to be in a relationship
- Used birthday cake wishes for someone to fall in love with me
- Read the love letters my parents wrote
- Cried while kissing someone
- Missed someone so bad that I drove hours just to see them
- Told someone “I love you”
- Told someone “I want to marry you”
- Dated someone just because they reminded me of my ex
- Dressed like my crush for Halloween
- Improved my hygiene because I liked someone
- Kissed someone while in braces
- Sent someone a romantic TikTok
- Ghosted someone
- Catfished someone
- Made up a fake Facebook account to stalk someone
- Called dibs on someone
- Had sweaty palms because I was so nervous about someone
- Mailed someone chocolates
- Mailed someone Valentine’s Day cards
- Been on a honeymoon
- Been a newlywed
- Kissed someone
- Shared a smoothie with a crush
- Serenaded someone
- Braided someone’s hair
- Shared chocolate covered strawberries with someone
- Given someone a foot massage
- Played spin the bottle
- Cuddled with someone on a couch
- Attended an office party with a date
- Gone on a museum date
- Kissed someone with a blindfold over my eyes
- Bought someone flowers
- Stalked someone on social media
- Bought someone an anniversary gift
- Wrote someone’s name over and over again and drew little hearts
- Shared lipstick with a crush
- Kissed underneath a table
- Walked with a date on a beach holding hands
- Had a date at a winery
- Bought a custom-made Etsy gift for a romantic occasion
- Went apple picking with a date
- Helped someone put on sunscreen
- Worn perfume/cologne to attract someone
- Asked someone out on a date
- Learned something to impress another person
- Baked someone a cake
- Frenched kissed someone
- Kissed someone on the cheek
- Got a makeover to impress someone
- Chased after someone who was already in a relationship
- Pretended to like something to impress my crush
- Looked up someone’s sun sign
- Broke up with someone
- Left someone for someone else
- Wrote someone a gushy love poem
- Picked someone up for a date
- Bought a dress to impress someone
- Had really bad butterflies (anxiety) over a crush
- Blushed around someone I liked
- Been in an unrequited romance
- Kissed someone’s eyebrow
- Danced the tango
- Stared into someone’s eyes romantically for more than a minute
- Planned a wedding
- Confessed my true feelings
- Confessed my attraction
- Been engaged
- Bought a house with someone
- Gotten knocked up
- Worn red lipstick
- Groomed my beard for a date
- Bought someone dinner
- Bought someone a drink
- Bought someone a one-way plane ticket
- Bought someone a train ticket
- Bought someone a whole vacation
- Bought someone a car
- Introduced my partner to my family
- Taken someone to Paris
- Watched a foreign language movie with my partner
- Shared a pet with a significant other
- Kissed a woman
- Kissed a man
- Played with handcuffs
- Played with romantic dice
- Turned off the lights during a kiss
- Worn deodorant on a date
- Hid with someone under a gazebo during a rainstorm
- Gone ice skating with someone I like
- Celebrated my crush’s birthday with them
- Shaved my legs for a date
- Slept in someone’s arms
- Kissed under the mistletoe
- Bought someone jewelry
- Worn an engagement ring
- Made my relationship Facebook official
- Shared pictures of my significant other on Instagram
- Missed someone so bad I cried myself to sleep
- Listened to Taylor Swift songs to get over the pain of losing someone
- Bought a puppy to impress someone
- Got stood up on a date
- Picked someone else’s nose
- Read a romance novel
- Had breakfast in bed with someone
- Stayed at a hospital overnight to be with my sweetheart
- Matched my outfit with my partner
- Kept a journal of funny things my partner says
- Worn my partner’s clothes
- Erased all my messages from an ex
- Rolled down a hill with someone
- Talked to someone on the phone all night
- Quoted lines from Shakespeare to seduce someone
- Had a couple’s massage
- Received plastic surgery to come off more attractive
- Yodeled to get someone’s attention
- Hid under someone’s bed as a surprise
- Given someone an Eskimo kiss
- Cuddled up with someone in the ocean
- Cuddled up in an igloo
- Bought ice cream for my sweetheart
- Asked someone to stay with me because I was scared after watching a movie
- Sat in my partner’s lap
- Been picked up and hugged
- Kissed someone until my lips were chapped
- Told someone about my feelings while under the influence of alcohol
- Walked out of a date
- Got into a fight with my partner
- Licked someone’s earlobe
- Dressed in a sleazy Halloween costume
- Put perfume on my neck
- Put rose petals on a bed
- Explored a castle with my love
- Held hands with my partner in a church
- Caught the bouquet at a wedding
- Been a bridesmaid/groomsmen/attendant
- Did something fancy to my hair to impress someone
- Sent someone a letter with heart stickers
- Sent someone pictures of cute animals to flirt with them
- Lied about something to get someone to talk to me
- Been with someone in a hot tub
- Played Twister with my crush
- Given someone a kiss after putting ice in my mouth
- Given someone a static electricity kiss
- Made out at a bonfire
- Been skinny dipping
- Used witchcraft to try and bring someone close to me
- Cast a love spell
- Wrote a love song
- Got a love tarot reading
- Did an astrology compatibility report
- Read someone love poetry
- Read someone Song of Songs
- Got a tattoo with my partner
- Experimented with my sexuality
- Covered up a hickey
- Slept on someone’s shoulder
- Accidentally farted when close to my crush
- Had my partner hold my hair while I vomited
- Snuck out of the house to see someone
- Had my palm read
- Prayed to be with someone
- Wrote a really long novel-like journal about someone I like
- Massaged someone’s shoulders
- Worn clothing to make myself look smaller or bigger
- Used a photo filter for my photo for my dating profile
- Used a dating app
- Used a dating website
- Plucked nose hairs before a date
- Had a picnic for two
- Worn a wedding dress
- Been in a long-distance relationship
- Got matching jewelry with someone
- Sent someone secret messages
- Ran off with someone else’s partner
- Crashed my significant other’s car
- Been kissed on the forehead
- Been called honey
- Been someone’s girlfriend
- Been someone’s boyfriend
- Been on the phone with my crush for more than two hours
- Dated a coworker
- Dated a friend
- Dated a classmate
- Gone on a blind date
- Been cheated on
- Had steamy dreams about someone
- Given someone gold
- Given someone a diamond
- Given someone my favorite jacket
- Given someone my hand in marriage
- Rode a bicycle built for two
- Bought someone tickets for a symphony, play, opera, or ballet
- Cried when someone rejected me
- Been to a dance
- Ran my fingers through someone’s hair
- Cheated off my crush’s answers
- Borrowed money from my partner
- Asked my partner to wear my clothes
- Received flowers
- Received chocolates
- Received a stuffed animal
- Used lipstick to write a note
- Took a picture of my elbow and sent it to someone
- Put someone in my phone as my significant other
- Kissed someone while fireworks were in the sky
- Held someone’s hand during a movie
- Spent more than $100 on someone
- Made someone blush with my compliments
- Found out about someone’s ex and tried to look like them
- Found out someone’s sun sign and broke up with them
- Waited on my sweetheart’s porch for them to get home
- Kissed someone before they got on a plane
- Held someone’s hand while they were sick
- Slept on someone else’s couch
- Set up a scavenger hunt for my partner
- Made my partner something cool like a necklace, a leather bag, pottery
- Painted something for my love
- Called someone lover
- Danced in the dark with someone
- Hid in a closet with my crush
- Been in a secret relationship
- Had a hideout with my crush
- Collected seashells with someone
- Ordered a romantic subscription box
- Touched someone’s eyebrows romantically
- Lifted weights to impress someone
- Did squats to impress someone
- Ran a few miles to impress someone
- Waited until someone was in a relationship and then rushed to them to tell them my feelings
- Dated multiple people at once
- Asked a psychic for help on love matters
- Wrote a romance novel
- Cut out paper hearts for someone
- Bought someone a snowglobe
- Went on a romantic getaway
- Kissed someone deeply when I was sad
- Had a candlelit dinner with someone
- Been on a romantic gondola ride
- Worn glitter on a date
- Played my crush a song on a guitar
- Saved notes from someone who liked me
- Saved pictures off social media to my phone of someone I liked
- Kissed a picture of someone I liked
- Had a recurring dream about a crush
- Bought someone I liked candy
- Took someone on a cruise
- Put a love lock on a bridge
- Been someone’s wife
- Been someone’s husband
- Had a crush on someone who was ten years older than me
- Kissed someone upside down
- Gone to a salon for someone
- Put my feet in someone’s lap
- Kissed a letter someone gave me
- Planned a surprise party for my partner
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Other Things to Keep In Mind
Never Have I Ever games shouldn’t last forever. A good host knows when to pull the plug. If people aren’t feeling it anymore then wind down the game. You probably don’t need to ask hundreds of questions.
Adding a time limit can help keep things on track and not feel endless. I suggest playing the game for about 30 minutes at most. If people feel uncomfortable then don’t force it. A good game has flow, laughs, and smiles.
A bad game accelerates jealously and ends with hurt feelings. You don’t want to put people on the spot or make them feel like you’re prying. It’s okay to ask goofball questions. It’s okay if people want to keep certain things private.
© 2021 Andrea Lawrence
Comments
Liza from USA on October 21, 2021:
I have almost missed your article on my timeline. My HP feed is getting odd. An excellent list of questions. I definitely 100% sure I have done some whilst dating my boyfriend (now, my husband). However, we had a long-distance relationship, which we have had some challenges through the relation. We are blessed with what we have now.
Preye Raymond from Nigeria on October 19, 2021:
Very interesting read. I had a bit of nostalgia while reading, made me remember my university days.
Andrea Lawrence (author) from Chicago on October 19, 2021:
@manjah zakaria
Glad to offer this article to you! I hope your week goes well.
manjah zakaria from marrakech on October 19, 2021:
Excellent article SerenityHaio; thank you much for this information.
